Self Love & Self Worth Crystals & Candle Ritual

radiantmystic
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Today is Friday, ruled by Venus, a day that many people associate with love, beauty, and harmony. In various cultures around the world, Friday is often seen as a time to celebrate relationships, whether romantic or platonic. This of course includes, relationship with self! The influence of Venus, the Roman goddess of love, adds a special significance to this day, encouraging individuals to express their affections and connect with self, and others, on a deeper level.

In many spiritual practices, Friday is considered an auspicious day for rituals focused on love and abundance. People might engage in meditation, or a soak in the tub with a book, to release the stresses of the week and focus on positive energy. The planetary alignment associated with Venus on this day is believed to enhance feelings of compassion, kindness, and understanding, making it an excellent time to focus on heart-centred intentions, emotional healing and attraction.

Today, I thought I’d share my top 8 go-to crystals for SELF LOVE & SELF WORTH and a simple SELF LOVE CANDLE RITUAL for you to try at home.

THE RADIANT MYSTIC'S TOP 8 CRYSTALS FOR SELF LOVE & SELF WORTH -

PINK AMETHYST - Very strong Heart Chakra connection. Its nurturing energy makes it a wonderful stone for Inner Child healing and can assist us in self-acceptance, & quieting that inner critic.

PINK MANGANO CALCITE - Reawakens the Heart chakra. Increases self-confidence, deep self-love & compassion. One of my favourite crystals for forgiveness & unconditional love. It has such a beautiful soft energy.

MOONSTONE - This one is for my fellow Cancerian & Lunar goddesses! Opens the heart to give & receive love & nurturing. Facilitates inner growth, self- love & acceptance. Balances the feminine energies.

PINK OPAL - Brings the vibration of love into the aura. Beautiful nurturing energy. Facilitates self-acceptance, self-care & self-expression. Powerful heart healer, particularly for grief & trauma.

RHODOCROSITE - Raises self-confidence, self-esteem, self-love & self-forgiveness. Cleanses, soothes & heals the energy around the Heart chakra. Wonderful for Inner Child healing.

ROSE QUARTZ - Known as the LOVE STONE for a reason! Brings unconditional love & forgiveness, including for self. Reawakens the Heart chakra, assisting in giving & receiving loving compassion for self.

RHODONITE - Heart opening. Encourages self-love & self-confidence. Empowering, raising self-worth. Grounding energy.

SUNSTONE - The BEST self-empowerment stone! Increases self-worth & personal power. Radiating Sun energy, you can’t help but feel the love & joy with Sunstone!

THE RADIANT MYSTIC'S 'LOVIN' MY DAMN SELF!' Self Love Candle Ritual

Self Love isn’t a one-off, ‘If I light this candle, I’ll love myself’ kind of deal…this marks the beginning of a healing journey for you. This marks the beginning of changing those negative thought patterns, seeing your beauty rather than the flaws, counting all the reasons why you are amazing, worthy, enough, loveable, perfect just as you are. And putting aside the time and energy towards ritual and spiritual practice is proof you are aware healing needs to occur, and you love yourself enough to begin. Woohoo!!

Before you begin your ritual, you may want to gather any items needed, such as a notepad and pen or journal, a candle holder, or heat proof dish, matches, maybe your oracle cards, & a glass of water, as well as any items from the list below. You can make this ritual as simple or complex as you want. You may choose to just use a candle and one special crystal, or to include all the bells & whistles!

Be sure to read through instructions before you begin. Have everything ready so you can focus on your intentions.

GATHER - A Pink or White Candle and anything else you wish to include on your altar.

Oil Suggestions - YlangYlang, Jasmine, Palmarosa, Lemon Balm, Rose Geranium, Lavender or Orange 100% essential oils, OR a ritual oil for the Heart chakra, or even Van Van oil for clearing those pesky obstacles!

Botanical Suggestions - Rose petals, Lavender, Chamomile, Jasmine, Calendula, Yarrow, Lemon peel or leaves, Lemon Balm.

Crystal Suggestions - Any of the above listed crystals, or other crystal for self love, like Kunzite or Larimar, OR simply use Clear Quartz to amplify your intentions.

CREATE YOUR SACRED SPACE. Light candles (not your Ritual Candle just yet!), set out your crystals, play some calming music, whatever you feel you need to create a peaceful environment. Cleanse your space, and yourself, with a smoke bundle, cleansing spray, or sound bowl, cleanse all the items you are using , and any extras, such as a candle holder or heat-proof plate. Ask your Guides and Angels to fill your space with pure white light and visualise that light filling your space, surrounding you and filling you too.
WRITE DOWN 7 positive things about yourself, things you love about yourself, on a blank piece of paper. If this is difficult, and it can be in the beginning, write down 7 ‘I AM’ or ‘I LOVE’ affirmations
- eg. I AM strong, I AM worthy, I LOVE & accept myself, I LOVE my body.
Place your list to the side, you can choose to keep it to look back on & repeat as a mantra for meditation, or you can place it under your candle before you light it.
HOLD YOUR RITUAL CANDLE between your hands, in front of your heart, and repeat your 7 self love affirmations like a mantra, visualising the candle being infused with beautiful soft pink light, feel it filling with the love that you want to give yourself - radiant, nurturing, all-embracing love. Focus on your breathing, focus on ‘infusing’ your candle with the end result…how you want to feel about yourself. When you feel this is complete, place your candle to the side.
IF YOU CHOOSE TO USE OIL - Be sure your oil is safe to use on skin. If you are sensitive or have allergies, you may wish to wear gloves. Place a few drops on your fingers. Hold your Ritual Candle with the base towards you, wick facing away. As you are doing two things energetically in this ritual, you want to draw specific energy - love - TOWARDS you, and you also want to send the negative thoughts AWAY, so rub the oil from the centre to base, rubbing the oil TOWARDS you. Visualise yourself RECEIVING LOVE as you do.
Then rub the oil from the centre to the wick, rubbing the oil AWAY from you. Visualise yourself RELEASING all those negative thoughts about yourself as you do. With any excess oil massage into your skin, if safe for you to do so, or anoint your Third Eye & Heart chakras, put some in an oil burner, or pour it into a bath later, or save it for a future ritual. Use your intuition.
PLACE YOUR CANDLE in it’s holder or on a heatproof dish. You may wish to place your list under the plate, or candle, as long as the candle remains stable and the area under it is heatproof. Please DO NOT leave your candle unattended! Make sure the area is safe. NOTE - The oil may create a bigger flame.
Light your Ritual Candle.
As you do this, take a moment to take a few deep breaths and ground yourself. Read over your self love list and see these things, embody them, you ARE those things & you are amazing! See yourself surrounding by pink light, feel it filling your body, seeping in to all of your cells, until you feel YOU ARE LOVE. You may want to speak your affirmations or repeat them over like a chant, be sure to continue your visualisations. You may want to do some journaling , pull an oracle card or meditate. If you have a larger candle, you may wish to burn it halfway and repeat this ritual again at a later date, it is entirely up to you. Use your intuition. Always give thanks for what is to come. Wrap up your ritual by stating ‘And so it is’. Thank your Guides & Angels for their assistance.
AFTER YOUR RITUAL you may want to have a ritual bath or shower! Use your oil, if you like. Visualise any remaining negative energy, or obstacles blocking you, washing away in the water. Think on your blessings, then as you let out the plug, or as the water is running, see all your troubles disappear down the plug hole & know this is a clean slate, a new beginning, ready for you to begin your self love journey.

Blessings ...and remember you are nothing less than Divine, and nothing can dim the light that shines within! xx Terésa